Freedom Programme

“All I can say I hate my past and love my future.

The past is prison in which I was kept for eight years and the future is freedom”

FREEDOM PROGRAMME created by Pat Craven

None of this is your fault, You are not to blame
He was abusive before you met him, Controlling women is his game

We have been delivering the Freedom Programme for over 11 years. The 11 week programme is open to women 16+ who want to learn more about the reality of domestic violence and abuse in relationships. Each session runs for 2 hours per week and explores the abusive tactics, controlling behaviours and belief systems of the dominator and the effects on our health and well-being

As it is a rolling programme you can start the programme at any point and can catch up on any missed sessions when they are repeated.

We understand how hard it can be to attend a programme for the first time; with that in mind please note we will not ask any intrusive questions; you don’t have to talk about yourself in the room; you can stop and start the programme whenever you want and if you come once and decide it’s not for you then that is entirely up to you; if you miss a few weeks you will be welcomed back at any time and will not be questioned why you haven’t been; we do not write reports on anyone but can supply a letter of attendance if you wish us to do so. During the sessions when looking at tactics, beliefs and effects the groups focus on A dominator and a woman called ‘Ann’ This way no one else needs to know about your situation, it is a safe way to release what is held inside without anyone knowing your circumstances.

Some women complete it in one programme whilst some women dip in and out and have taken a year to complete it fully. Either way you will be welcomed back.


All women are actively welcomed to the Freedom Programme. We never give advice or tell a woman that she should leave. If it were that easy, she would have already left. Judgemental statements such as ‘I would never let anyone do that to me’ or ‘this has never happened to me’ is simply not acceptable.

Facilitators refer to all women as ‘us’ and would never use the dreaded words ‘these women’.

These programmes are only for the women who attend them, observers are not endorsed.

Everyone who attends the programme will receive a free copy of ‘Living With The Dominator’ and a copy of The Home Study Workbook which is a supplement to ‘Living With The Dominator’.

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The aims of the Freedom Programme are:

To help women understand the beliefs held by abusive men and in doing so, recognise which of these beliefs they may have shared

To illustrate the effects of domestic violence on children

To assist women to recognise potential future abusers and assist in breaking the cycle of violence

To help women gain self-esteem and the confidence to improve the quality of their lives

To introduce women to community resources

Weekly Sessions:

The Dominator

Week 1 – Introduction – the Dominator
Week 2 – The Bully
Week 3 – The Badfather
Week 4 – Effects on Children
Week 5 – The Jailer
Week 6 – The Headworker
Week 7 – The Sexual controller
Week 8 – King of The Castle
Week 9 – The Liar
Week 10 -The Persuader
Week 11 – Early Warning Signs

The Bully smashes things, shouts, glares & sulks.
The Jailor cuts you off from your friends.
The Headworker makes you feel ugly and useless.
The Persuader threatens to find you wherever you go.
The Liar blames you, drugs, drink, stress etc.
The Badfather uses the children to control you.
The King of the Castle controls all the finances & makes all the decisions.
The Sexual Controller expects sex on demand.

We end each session with the non-abusive counterpart as pictured in the graphic below.

Mr Nice

Positive behaviours and personas:

The Friend is cheerful and consistent.
The Liberator welcomes your friends and family.
The Confidence Booster tells you you’re competent.
The Negotiator takes responsibility for his well-being and happiness.
The Truthteller admits to being wrong.
The Good Father is a responsible parent.
The Partner shares financial responsibility.
The Lover accepts that you have a right to say “no” to sex.

He is not a saint he is just a decent human being. How hard can that be??

To see some of the comments from women who have completed the programme visit the Womens Comments page.

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